Friday Free Things: Kids & Kites

The entire family is invited for a free Chicago event on May 2 to Montrose Harbor in Lincoln Park for Mayor Daley’s Kids and Kites Festival.

things to do in chicagoIf the kids don’t have a kite let alone know how to fly one, don’t worry. The Mayor’s Office of Special Events will provide free kits for children to design and create their own kite. Kite flying professionals will be coming out to demonstrate exactly how it is done, and help you master your kite flying skills. there will also be face-painting and other fun stuff from 10am to 4 pm. See Free Things to Do in Chicago for more information

Marriage Conference Featuring Paul Tripp

Just found out from the folks at Park Community Church there is a marriage conference being held in a couple of weeks (April 24-25) at Holy Trinity church in the city.  It is entitled “Marriage:  What Did You Expect?” and features renowned speaker and author, Dr. Paul Tripp.  Holy Trinity Church would love to have couples join them for this event.  You can find the details for registration at www.missionalmarriages.net.

Nephew, Caleb Lavey, Hits the Big Time

My nephew, Caleb Lavey, now has 19 Division One Football Scholarship offers Caleb Lavey in Michigan Football Locker Room in 2002and got featured in a Michigan news article recently about his visit last weekend to Michigan.  My brother Mike and I were managers under Bo Schembechler in the 1975-1982 seasons and are huge Michigan fans.  He has been criss-crossing the country making unofficial visits to schools to get a feel for the coaches, the player, and the programs and he narrows down his decision.  Caleb is a fine young man with a huge heart and a real,knack for the football, to go along with his strong academic performance (he has a number of AP credits already).  While the changing of the guard at the helm of Michigan’s storied program to Rich Rodriguez weakened some of the Blue allegiances, his commitment to his players and the incredible coaching staff and facilities might help the Maize and Blue land Caleb Lavey, one of the top linebackers in the south, hailing from Celina, Texas.

As an outside observer, I am amazed at how the recruiting process has changed and how much earlier this process is taking place for high schoolers.  Many football standouts decide on their college in the winter of their junior years.  Caleb has said that he wants to decide by the beginning of his senior year of high school at Celina High School  (September 2009) where he will play college football.  A snippet of the article:

The 6-foot-4, 225-pound Lavey is a Michigan legacy of sorts. His father Mike served as a team manager for the football program from 1975 through 1979. After graduating, his job search necessitated a move to Texas in the early 1980s, but his college football loyalty remained in the Great Lakes State. That virtually assured that any of his offspring would root for the Maize and Blue.

The ball-hawking backer is a disruptive force on the football field who often utilizes his self-reported 4.56 40 speed to track plays from sideline to sideline. At the same time, his high football IQ and love for the physical side of the game might be even bigger attributes.

Lavey lit up ball carriers an astonishing 200 times last season en route to leading his club to its third consecutive state title game. Along the way he also caught the attention of a number of big-time college coaches. Each time a new suitor joins the fray, he begins gathering as much information on them as possible. A handful have already received unofficial visits, and his most recent trip took him back up to Ann Arbor.

Thanksgiving Top 20

In September of 1620, a small wooden ship called the Mayflower set sail from England, headed for the New World. Crowded on board were 102 passengers, most of them Christians who believed that God was leading them to establish a new community where they could worship freely. After sixty-five days of tossing on the sea through ferocious storms, seasickness, terrible food, and no sanitation, these Pilgrims arrived on the shores of the New World. Winter was setting in, and though they worked hard, they could not build their dwellings quickly enough. As the weeks went by, the weather grew worse. In the coldest stretch of winter, a flu-like illness swept through the colony. By the end of March, nearly half of those who had arrived on the Mayflower had died.

With the help of two English-speaking Indians, Samoset and Squanto, the remaining colonists formed a peace pact with the nearby Wampanoag tribe. Squanto also taught the settlers how to grow new crops, such as corn and pumpkins, and to trap beaver for their pelts.  By October 1621, the crops were ready for harvest. The Pilgrims’ hearts were full of gratitude for their renewed health, for the abundant harvest, and for the peace they enjoyed with the Indians. William Bradford, the new governor, declared that Plymouth should hold a thanksgiving festival and invite the settlement’s Indian friends as special guests. A date was set, and an invitation delivered to Chief Massasoit.

To make sure there was adequate food, the Pilgrim men went hunting and fishing. When Massasoit arrived with ninety hungry braves, they too went to the woods and seashore to gather food. When it was time to eat, the menu was impressive: venison, goose, lobster and other seafood, vegetables, and dried fruits. A special treat was supplied by the Indians. They placed corn on hot coals, and the kernels blew into white puffs of popcorn!

But before they began to eat, the Pilgrims offered a prayer to the God who had so clearly and miraculously led them to this place. Though they had suffered much, God had blessed them abundantly, and they sincerely offered Him their thanks and praise.   Each year we have gone around the Thanksgiving table at dinner to remind ourselves in the 21st century what we are thankful about.  This year I raised it a notch requiring all the kids and Sue and I to sit down this week and write out the Top 20 things we are thankful for.  This forces all of us to reflect on the last year, our journey over that time period, and to think about all that has happened to us, good and bad, in that time.

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about what you are thankful for this year?

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So tonight, we will go through our lists and share what we are thankful  for…..here is my list.  I am most thankful for:

1.  Jesus and my growing relationship with Him.

2.  God, who loved all of us so much that He would send His Son to create a path and bridge back to relationship to Himself.

3.  A beautiful wife who loves Jesus.

4. Four beautiful children, who love me but try my patience some times!

5. A roof overhead and a bed to sleep in.

6.  Success in my work and business life.

7.  A great church, Park Community Church,  with discerning and strategic elders and excellent teaching pastors, Jackson Crum and J.R. Kerr.

8.   Great parents who love Jesus and taught me great character lessons and who have prayed for me continuously for decades.

9.  Great in-laws — many don’t have this relationship and it makes the holidays hard — I am thankful that our relationship is good.

10.  Great friends who love me for the person that I am (thank God!)

11.  All the financial blessings that have been bestowed upon me and my family.

12.  The good health of my family.

13.  A curious mind that allows me to think what could be and dream of the possibilities.

14.  Great neighborhood and neighbors — I love all these families around here, which I think is unusual in a huge city like Chicago — what a great street we have  — Kildare Rocks!

15.  Investors for my latest business venture

16.  Great business partners and colleagues who share my passion for creating the leading social network connecting athletes and fans at www.fanfuego.com

17. The freedom we enjoy as U.S. citizens

18.  The entrepreneurial spark which was lit in me by my old boss at American DisposalRich DeYoung  -  thanks buddy — you don’t know the impact you have had on me.

19.  The opportunity to get an education, and advance my career because of those educational opportunities.

20.  A safe and secure existence in the best city and country in the world.

The Joy of Abby-Jill

This weekend I sat with hundreds of others (really an old-timers Park alumni meeting, it seemed like) and celebrated the life of Abby-Jill Marie Brauhn, a friend and former staff-member at Park Community Church, who lost her battle with cancer this week. Rich Case did an excellent job in his message and Rich Johnson was superb leading the worship…..there were so many Park alums who joined together to do the set-up food and singing….. it was Park at its finest. The stories that people told were so funny and so typical Abby-Jill.

My most stiking memory was how Abby loved everyone. Yes, she was very skilled at business, yes she was a terrific organizer, yes, she was a top-notch leader….but she loved people. From the rich to the poor, from the “got-it-together” to the down-trodden and broken-spirited. I learned a lot about people caring from Abby — she wanted each person to know the security she had through her faith in Jesus Christ. She has such joy in her relationship with Jesus. That’s what I will remember most…..

I know there were lots of people whose life she touched in dramatic ways over the years through coffee conversations, to late night dinners, to pajama parties for her girlfriends to travelling with others. More than 300 people took Park trips to the FFHM orphanage under her watch and had their lives completely changed. I am profoundly sad and greatly grieving her loss.

I also realized, like my friend Jill’s post, that in that celebration service with so many 1990′s Park alumni there, I yearned for a moment in time that I can never go back to (and so that is probably part of my grief too). We got to sing all my favorite praise songs (which were also Abby-Jill’s favorites) with so many people that I love to hang out with, yet many have disbursed all over the country with scores of kids and new responsibilities.

As Jill said so well “This week Abby-Jill got to fully realize what I got a glimpse of this weekend. We aren’t meant for this world and I find myself strangely longing for that place when I am once again singing in a room full of “family” without a care in the world. Thank you AJB for reminding me and for touching my life once again.”

God gave us Abby-Jill for a moment and she is home now with the Father.

Man, heaven is going to be a good place, dontcha think?……..

Check out another Park alum’s thoughts here.

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In Memory of Abby-Jill — We Will Miss You

This week, Park Community Church suffered a great loss, when one of its former staff, Abby-Jill Brauhn , lost her fight with cancer and went to be with the Lord on Tuesday morning, surrounded by her family in Wisconsin. Abby-Jill was a Godly woman who loved the Lord and loved people. She made a huge impact for the Kingdom and will be greatly missed, although I know she is feeling no pain and dancing in heaven as we speak. I will miss her greatly — I loved her passion to see people come to know Jesus in a personal relationship and I appreciated her tremendous gift of leadership on the trips I went on to the orphanage in Mexico. Here is a summary (with some adds by me about my friend) of the obituary sent to the Tribune:

Abby-Jill Marie Brauhn

September 16, 1964 – March 11, 2008

Abby-Jill Brauhn, 43, died Tuesday, March 11, 2008, at the home of her sister, Deborah Geary. She was the daughter of Maggie French and the late Stephen Brauhn. Abby was blessed with an extraordinary life. She graduated from Buffalo General School of Nursing, where she began her career as a registered nurse. She later joined Parke Davis Pharmaceuticals as a sales representative. Abby’s ambition and initiative brought her to Chicago, where enjoyed a successful career as new-products sales rep and then regional manager.

In 1995, Abby went on a short term mission trip to the FFHM orphanage that Park supports in the Baja of Mexico, and there her life chcanged and it would never be the same. She experienced a great renewal of her faith, and when she heard a higher calling in 1998, Abby went to work for Park Community Church in Chicago as the Director of Extension Ministries. Here she founded and grew Park’s annual Park Service Day ( now called For One Chicago), which engaged more than 900 Park Church members to serve the Chicago community for a day. She was a pivotal member of Park’s short term mission trips called Vacation with a Purpose, which led mission trips to orphanages in Mexico operated by Foundation for His Ministry and other places around the world. She always had a vision that she would create an orphanage, so when the opportunity came, Abby’s faith took her to California. In October 2004, she left Park to become a senior leader at Charla Pereault’s right hand side at FFHM in Oxnard California.

Abby lived a life that was full of joy, love, and devotion to her family, friends, and God. An avid reader and traveler, she embarked on many voyages around the world. She had a wonderful ability to touch all that she came in contact with. A diagnosis of terminal cancer brought her back to the Midwest, where she lived with her sister, Debbie, and her family. With faith and courage, Abby endured cancer treatment for two and a half years.

Abby-Jill is survived by her mother, Maggie, her sister Debbie, brother-in-law Brian Geary, brother Robert Brauhn, brother Adam Brauhn, sister-in-law Tasha, nieces Molly, Maggie, Katherine, and Grace, and nephews Christopher and Nicholas. Abby was preceded in death by her father, Stephen.

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A funeral service will be held at St. Anthony on the Lake, N2101 Hwy. SS Pewaukee Wis., on Friday, March 11, at 4:00 p.m.

“A Chicago memorial service will be held on Saturday, March 15th, at 1:00 p.m. at the GERMANIA PLACE BALLROOM (please note location has been changed).

In lieu of flowers, please send a donation to the Susan G. Komen Foundation for the Cure, 877.465.6636, or Heartland Hospice, 13255 W. Bluemound Road Suite 100, Brookfield, Wis. 53005.

Cesarz Charapata & Zinnecker is serving the family. For more information, please call the funeral home at 262.542.6609.

Great Reminder on Stewardship as a Leader

Tim Stevens, the Executive Pastor at Granger Community Church is a person I respect greatly, and he has another great nugget of wisdom for leaders of all types concerning how to get a strong financial framework in your life. As I move out of the church business and into my sports-oriented social networking start-up, FanFuego.com, these lessons hit home for me…here are some of my favorite nuggets on maintaining a good financial situation…read the whole article here.

If this is an area of concern for you, you should know that at Park, we have one of the leading stewardship experts in the land named Matt Bell. Check out his website at www.financially-speaking.com and you can subscribe to his excellent Biblical newletters on good financial management practices here.

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  • Don’t use a credit card for anything you can’t pay off right away. Use a credit card for convenience, but don’t ever pay interest. If you can’t control yourself, get rid of the cards.

  • Tithe–I really believe that God blesses those who tithe. I think he keeps the car running longer, the roof from leaking as soon as it would have, and He loves to sprinkle you with raises and added cash you didn’t expect.
  • Give generously. The tithe is the minimum. We began our first year of marriage giving 10% of our income and then increased it every year until we got to 20%. The first 10% goes to the general fund at our church. The other 10% we use to support missionaries, give to new building projects at our church, and bless people who come into our lives.
  • If you are married, don’t ever make a big purchase without talking to each other. Really, trust me on this. [AMEN BROTHER – I LEARNED THE HARD WAY )
  • Teach your kids to handle their money. They aren’t going to learn financial management at school. No one else is going to teach them to be generous. By the time they’ve been out of your house a week, they will have already received 14 credit card invitations. Teach them early.
  • Set aside money for fun. Fun with your spouse. Fun with your kids. Fun for yourself (for me, that means buying a geeky gadget on occasion).
  • Don’t wait until you have more money to put wise financial management into practice in your life.

Happy Birthday Sue!

Just a quick wish of the bestest birthday to the love of my life, Sue Lavey, who is enjoying her birthday week this week. You will always be the best!

Happy Birthday Sue

VeggieTales Trailer and Questions: The Pirates Who Don’t Do Anything

The children’s franchise delivers an entertaining spoof as the vegetables find the heroes in themselves.” — LA TIMES


“Most Entertaining” – Hollywood Reporter


“Pirates imparts the Bible-inspired storytelling parents and kids have come to expect from VeggieTales in a less obvious but as-fun-as-always package.” – Christianity Today

DISCUSSION STARTERS:

Here are some questions from Christianity Today’s review to begin dialogue with your children once you have seen the movie:

1. Why do you think George, Elliot and Sedgewick feel that “guys like us will never be more than cabin boys”? Are some people just not cut out to be heroes? Why or why not? What do you think it means to be a hero?

2. If Elliot, Sedgewick and George are supposed to be normal people like us in the story, who does the King represent? Why do you think that?

3. Could the pirates have been victorious without the King? Why or why not? List the ways the King helps them throughout the movie. What do you think this movie says about your ability to do good things without God?

4. Each of the three main characters has a weakness that holds him back. What is a weakness that you feel holds you back? Why would God allow humans to have weaknesses like this to struggle with? Read 2 Corinthians 12:9-10. What does this mean? How do you see this illustrated in the movie?

Check out the trailers for this movie that opens today!

Trailers featuring the creators, Phil Vischer and Mike Nawrocki:

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And the official movie trailer from Universal Studios :

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New Year’s Resolutions

Each year, I read about lots of people’s new year’s resolutions. Long lists of things they want to accomplish in the current year — many of which are abandoned before the long winter nights of February are through. I am not doing the list of 57 things this year.

This year, I am setting five simple new year’s resolutions:

1. Love God,

2. Love my wife well

3. Love my children well

4. Do well in leading others at work

5. Spurred on by a competition with my daughter — to read 52 books this year.

On the last resolution, iron sharpens iron and the more I read, the better decisions I make and the more I learn from outsiders that can help me understand, shape and clarify my views and my way of doing things.

First books up are:

“American Pharoah: The Story of Richard J Daley” – I love Chicago and it history and this is a great one.

“Now Discover your Strengths” – Gallup — Knowing what one’s strengths are is a good reflective exercise and allows you to see what other talents you need around you to succeed.

What are you resolving to do this year?

Off to Dallas – Have a Great Christmas!

Each year we rotate the Christmas/Thanksgiving holidays and this year we spent Thanksgiving in the mountains of North Carolina with Sue’s parents.  Now we are headed out for Dallas (McKinney TX to be exact) to my parents and as a bonus, we get to see my nephews, Josh Lavey and Caleb Lavey, play for the Texas state football championship for their school, Celina, who is going for their eighth championship in their school’s history.

Have a wonderful Christmas and slow down a little and reflect on all the blessings that God has provided for you this year. 

Sliding into Vacation

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Wisconsin Dells, Here We Come!

I am off with the whole family for some quick R&R in the Wisconsin Dells. Got a great deal at Wilderness Resort and looking forward to a couple of mid-day naps with my IPod going (and dreaming about getting one of the precious IPhones)!

Katie turns 8 this week and this will give us a head start on celebrating her “birthday week” (we have a whole week of celebration in our family — one day seems to be to short to celebrate your birthday, don’t you agree?)

Summer seems to be rushing by and this will be a good stress reducer for me. Maybe I will go in for one of those “Man-spa” treatments — whaddya think!

Family Nights Rock Out!

We had more than 65 adults and kids out for our first family fun night!  It was a great time of community, games, pizaa and friends.  Big thanks to Jeff and Angela Koch, who ran the games and to Sarah Chambers, our in-house resident AWANA games expert….Next week on Wednesday, we are plannnig to separate out the 1-4 year olds from the larger kids which should make it a better experience for all kids……It is GOOD to be a family in this world-class city.  IF you have any comments or suggestions, please email me here.

The $138K Mom

AP — I knew I had a valuable wife, who stays home with our four lovely (and precocious children), but this confirms it!

(Salary.com) If the typical stay-at-home mother in the United States were paid for her work as a housekeeper, cook and psychologist among other roles, she would earn $138,095 a year, according to research released on Wednesday. The 10 jobs listed as comprising a mother’s work were housekeeper, cook, day care center teacher, laundry machine operator, van driver, facilities manager, janitor, computer operator, chief executive officer and psychologist, it said.

This reflected a 3 percent raise from last year’s $134,121, according to Salary.com Inc, Waltham, Massachusetts-based compensation experts. The typical mother puts in a 92-hour work week, it said, working 40 hours at base pay and 52 hours overtime.

Materialism in our Kids Generation

A recent article ran in the Chicago Tribune entitled “Material Kids: Wealth is a Top Priority for Today’s Youth“. How do we counteract this trend in the church?

The key statistics in the article were:

UCLA’s annual survey of college freshman, released in January 2007, found that nearly three-quarters of those surveyed in 2006 thought it was essential or very important to be “very well-off financially.” That compares with 62.5 percent who said the same in 1980 and 42 percent in 1966, the first year the survey was done.

Another recent poll from the Pew Research Center found that about 80 percent of 18- to 25-year-olds in this country see getting rich as a top life goal for their generation.

Key Takeaways:

“Our kids have absorbed the cultural values of more, easy, fast and fun,” says David Walsh, a psychologist who heads the National Institute on Media and the Family in Minneapolis. He’s also author of the new book, “NO: Why Kids — of All Ages — Need to Hear It and Ways Parents Can Say It.” As his book’s title suggests, he believes parents have played an integral role in encouraging their children’s materialism. His research found that, when adjusted for inflation, parents are spending 500 percent more money on kids today than just one generation earlier. [Read more...]

Park’s 1st Leader Zone Meeting a Success!

In 2007, we are striving to be more intentional about growing and developing our leadership community at Park Community Church. One of the ways we are going to invest in our leaders is through quarterly meetings, where we will bring the entire leadership community together for a dinner, here about what God is doing through us and amongst us, provide in-depth communication about what is happening at Park and where we are going, and hear from Jackson.

We had our first Quarterly “Leader Zone” leader meeting last Thursday night and it got good reviews. More than 150 of our leaders met at the Kitsch’n restaurant and got a chance to have dinner together, hear some great testimonies from folks at Park, and hear Jackson talk about our 2007 goal of having every leader reproduce themselves as we grow. We got a chance to get an update on the building construction (check out our ParkCAM), the Imagine More campaign, and leadership updates.

Leaders, thanks for your commitment to coming alongside the work that God is doing here in Chicago – we have lots more to do but there is a strong energy and enthusiasm among the leadership core and it contagious! The elder and staff love doing ministry with you folks!

Be sure to mark your calendars for the next meeting on May 10th! A mp3 of the message will be posted here next week for those who missed it!

Happy Thanksgiving!

As I sit around with friends and family, I extend my heartfelt wishes for a wonderful day for all of you with friends and family!

Today, as my father-in-law is making the turkey, I am reminded of the power of smell. I know all the Thanksgiving smells…..the turkey roasting in the over, the potatoes being mashed, the pecan pie as it warms in the oven. For us, thanksgiving is about traditions and being together as a family. Today, we have invited a couple of guys from our church to join us as we break bread together and reflect on all that we have to be thankful for. I am always sorry that we can’t have both sides of the family together but I know the Laveys are having a great get-together in Dallas.

Giving Thanks – My Quick Six (borrowed from Park!)

  • I am thankful for a God who relentlessly pursued me through college and into my career, never far from me and always bringing people into my life to tell me about Jesus, especially my “prayer warrior” mom.
  • I am thankful for my wife Sue, who is still a “hottie”, who loves Jesus, and who always lends an ear for my tales of adventure and woe.
  • I am thankful for my family, who bring me untold joy each and every day as the kids grow and my wife blossoms as a home-school teacher.
  • I am thankful for the opportunity to work and minister in this world-class city at a cool church like Park Community Church. I have done some cool things with my four companies before but this allows me to try and be significant for the Kingdom.
  • I am thankful for the ability to have a city home, to do life right here in this fast-paced urban environment with all it has to offer, to expose my kids to all that is good and bad in a large global city called Chicago.
  • I am thankful for our parents who have guided us well and helped us get to today – who have now turned into good friends and confidants.

Family Caregiving 101

With aging parents and in-laws, this is an issue near and dear to me. I am so thankful to come across this post in The Outbox:

Many families in America are caught in the double bind of caring for aging parents while still raising children at home. I see the scenario of caregiving needs playing out all the time in our congregation, and congregations across the country. There are lots of great programs out there for equipping us to be caregivers (such as Stephen Ministry).

Just came across a website called Family Caregiving 101. It is a resource particularly for families who are in the situation of caregiving — but it should also be a great equipping resource for missional Christians who have opportunities to reach out to caregivers around them. A quote from the site

No one wants to think about adversity. No one wants to see it staring them in the face. And yet that is what people need to do if they are going to be our friends. They will have to put their fears aside and learn how to maneuver a wheelchair and possibly learn how to communicate with us in a new way. That’s why they are friends, and we will cherish them all the more for sticking by us because we know that so many others have a hard time dealing with our changed situation and will drift away.

It’s a secular site — our challenge is learning to extend the care in Christ’s name.